tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post3901187945644863931..comments2023-10-24T03:01:43.946-07:00Comments on On Page and Screen: It's a Strange, Strange World/Quick Update on My Life/Thoughts About GrievingSarah Whttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05791493920946066930noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-67595840187490370022012-12-20T18:35:25.151-08:002012-12-20T18:35:25.151-08:00Thank you, Sheree. I do remember you writing about...Thank you, Sheree. I do remember you writing about the loss of your baby girl. (((Hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-55675838189600661782012-12-20T18:34:27.136-08:002012-12-20T18:34:27.136-08:00And I loved reading your post about your mom, too....And I loved reading your post about your mom, too. Yes, Sheldon is from Big Bang Theory. He's a little bit like Sherlock in a few ways -- brilliant but insensitive. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-24825964888031508692012-12-20T17:44:57.142-08:002012-12-20T17:44:57.142-08:00If I am not mistaken, Sheldon is from The Big Bang...If I am not mistaken, Sheldon is from The Big Bang theory, right? I haven't seen that one yet...I already have the first season but haven't got time to see it yet.<br /><br />Doctor Who and Sherlock? we totally have similar taste there ;)<br /><br />Thank you, Steph. It' s nice reading that your mom was also your bestfriend.Novrozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05410600219306917078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-25151638541464448612012-12-16T14:11:58.580-08:002012-12-16T14:11:58.580-08:00Your post touched me deeply Stephanie. I'm so ...Your post touched me deeply Stephanie. I'm so sorry about the loss of your mum and precious baby boy; the good, bad and sad of grief, such a loss leaves you forever changed. So many memories in your bookcase, what a lovely thing for your hubby to do. <br /><br />My mum passed away 4 years ago at 62 after a few weeks battling melanoma, she was my best friend and 22 years ago my baby girl died 19 hours after she was born. I totally relate to your thoughts about grief being a spiral, even so far on, some moments, some years are just inexplicably harder than others.<br /> <br />I find that time lessens pain but it doesn't make the missing less<br /><br />My favourite (lol that sounds umm a bit sad) grief books ... Getting Back To Life When Grief Won't Heal by Phyllis Kominsky, Loss of a Baby by Margaret Nichol and A New Star ... beautiful children's story explaining the death of a baby to siblings. Eternal on the Water by Joseph Monninger is an all time favourite of mine. It's a beautiful fictional story about Yeti Love and choices when you have a devastating terminal illness. Teddyreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553244883194436385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-1133986696291578322012-12-15T10:25:58.900-08:002012-12-15T10:25:58.900-08:00Great list, Chip. :-) I loved 21 Grams. I also lik...Great list, Chip. :-) I loved 21 Grams. I also like Defendor, Gran Torino, Hugo and Up. And I'll definitely be coming by to read your post about Field of Dreams.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-85083831144215253002012-12-15T10:23:18.764-08:002012-12-15T10:23:18.764-08:00Thanks, Trish! I really like personal posts, too, ...Thanks, Trish! I really like personal posts, too, but I realize they aren't of interest to everyone. :-) Thank you for your kind and thoughtful comment. And what a blessing that you and Elle are so close to your mom, both emotionally and geographically.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-67074694315904232642012-12-14T20:02:14.491-08:002012-12-14T20:02:14.491-08:00Hmmm. I can think of any number of movies that ha...Hmmm. I can think of any number of movies that have sad things in them, but I'm almost drawing a blank when it comes to movies about dealing with grief. I wrote about Field of Dreams and the personal connection to me and my dad back in early November. Unfortunately, it was in a spoiler section where I discussed the end of the film, so if you have not seen the movie, you probably did not read it.<br /><br />To kickstart my brain I took a look through the other films I've recommended. I came up with these movies in regards to dealing with grief:<br /><br />21 Grams - husband and child<br />Another Earth - wife and child<br />Beginners - father<br />Defendor - mother<br />The Descendants - wife/mother<br />Gran Torino - wife<br />Hugo - father<br />Marilyn Hotchkiss' Ballroom Dancing & Charm School - wife<br />Pan's Labyrinth - father and sick mother<br />To Gillian on Her 37th Birthday - wife/mother<br />Up - wife<br />A Very Long Engagement - fiancee<br /><br />Rather than inundate you with links, here is a single link to my index, from which you could select any/all of the movies above if you wanted to know a little more about why I recommended them: http://tipsfromchip.blogspot.com/p/index-of-movies-reviewed.htmlChip Laryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00787403805554027107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-48674525697291027472012-12-14T11:41:03.710-08:002012-12-14T11:41:03.710-08:00Stephanie - Your post brought tears to my eyes and...Stephanie - Your post brought tears to my eyes and I can tell you've done a great deal of reflecting upon grief and I think you're right that you're never completely done grieving and that your heart just makes room. It must have been incredibly difficult to say goodbye to your mom--I can't imagine as I live less than a mile from mine and still at 31 need her every day--but it's wonderful that you have these memories and the connection of books to keep her alive within you. <br /><br />Also--I LOVE personal posts. It's these kinds of connections that make me love blogging and the people behind the blogs. xoTrish @ Love, Laughter, Insanityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17225576485797030511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-72160895264863362562012-12-14T10:38:06.378-08:002012-12-14T10:38:06.378-08:00Thanks, Lindsey -- this is a lovely comment. I'...Thanks, Lindsey -- this is a lovely comment. I'm glad you have a bookish relationship with your parents and sisters. Shared passions are a great thing to have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-48588611735704729132012-12-14T10:36:47.335-08:002012-12-14T10:36:47.335-08:00Thank you for this beautiful, thoughtful comment, ...Thank you for this beautiful, thoughtful comment, Margaret. I'll check into PS: I Love You.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-68735576640517067372012-12-14T10:35:59.581-08:002012-12-14T10:35:59.581-08:00A keyword search is always good, but I prefer pers...A keyword search is always good, but I prefer personal recommendations. Thanks for mentioning Ordinary People -- you have a good memory. ;-) I'll look into the other titles you suggested. Thanks, Chris!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-13293692179201010582012-12-14T10:08:11.887-08:002012-12-14T10:08:11.887-08:00What a beautiful post, it made me cry a little as ...What a beautiful post, it made me cry a little as I'm very close with my mother and I can't imagine losing her. It's lovely that you shared something together, in a way going back to those books you loved and reading them again really must make you feel like she's not really gone and always there with you.<br /><br />I really liked how this subject was handled in "PS: I Love you" where the husband left tapes and letters for his wife after he was gone, gradually helping her to find happiness again.s.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13987831438787776712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-7930394298243664412012-12-14T10:05:26.342-08:002012-12-14T10:05:26.342-08:00Don't Look Now (1973) and Reign Over Me (2007)... Don't Look Now (1973) and Reign Over Me (2007), are about grief, and both I recommend. You've already seen Ordinary People, I remember. Agree with commments about Blue (1993) and The Sweet Hereafter (1997), both are worth tracking down.<br /><br />By the way, I found above titles by doing a keyword search on IMDB for "grief"<br />Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09395044055566348346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-77699238668405788262012-12-14T09:21:48.111-08:002012-12-14T09:21:48.111-08:00What a beautiful post. It's wonderful that you...What a beautiful post. It's wonderful that you got to share that special bond with your mother through books. I find myself in the fortunate position of living in a family of readers. I often swap and discuss books with my parents and my sisters. It must be so special to have those books that your mother loved - like you still have a little part of her. Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00333927782181943347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-81360036726374418242012-12-13T21:17:45.097-08:002012-12-13T21:17:45.097-08:00Thanks, Josh. I rented Blue once but didn't ha...Thanks, Josh. I rented Blue once but didn't have the chance to watch it. I'll add it back to my list. I've gone back and forth on wanting to see Rabbit Hole, but I've decided I'll see it soon. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-69541174511679975702012-12-13T21:16:26.366-08:002012-12-13T21:16:26.366-08:00Thanks! I'll look for that.Thanks! I'll look for that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-55124278522248447292012-12-13T21:16:07.310-08:002012-12-13T21:16:07.310-08:00Thanks, Naida. I appreciate your thoughts, and I k...Thanks, Naida. I appreciate your thoughts, and I know what you mean about the iTouch. I never even used a computer until I was in college. :-DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-43692966900576515732012-12-13T21:14:47.109-08:002012-12-13T21:14:47.109-08:00Thank you for sharing this, Jenners, and I'm g...Thank you for sharing this, Jenners, and I'm glad I'm having the opportunity to get to know you online. I am so sorry you didn't have the chance to say goodbye to your parents. I know exactly what you mean about losing the connection in the middle of the conversation.<br /><br />"I think your husband's gesture of building the bookcases says more than anything else he could have done." -- Exactly! That's how I feel. :-)<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-18758148761551254142012-12-13T19:46:07.320-08:002012-12-13T19:46:07.320-08:00Excellent post! My situation resembles Cherokee...Excellent post! My situation resembles Cherokee's. I've had two relatives die when I was between 8-12, but I haven't experienced the loss of a close family member yet. I'm not sure I even know how to grieve, but, like you said in the comments, I think everyone experiences it differently in various stages of life.<br /><br />The only movies dealing with grief that I can think of are Three Colors: Blue (can't remember if you've seen it yet) and Rabbit Hole.<br />I second the Life as a House mention too.Joshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08596682195753811295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-52339265388398330662012-12-13T19:29:15.433-08:002012-12-13T19:29:15.433-08:00I forgot to say, about the movie....Simon Birch. I forgot to say, about the movie....Simon Birch. The Bookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10217390642323530030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-54818119168544946562012-12-13T19:25:34.984-08:002012-12-13T19:25:34.984-08:00Beautiful post. It is so true, grief never fully g...Beautiful post. It is so true, grief never fully goes away but we make room for it and try to move on. We never stop missing the people we love.<br /><br />I used to think we'd be living life like the Jetsons by now too...lol. A robot maid and a flying car were what I was expecting. The internet and all this technology never fail to amaze me. I've just gotten an iTouch about a year and a half ago and I was so in awe of the idea of a touch screen. <br />When I tell my kids "we're living in the future'' they make fun of me. The Bookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10217390642323530030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-10456875443385337162012-12-13T16:48:46.619-08:002012-12-13T16:48:46.619-08:00Grief is a strange thing, isn't it? I lost bot...Grief is a strange thing, isn't it? I lost both my parents within two years of each other (my dad in mountaineering accident and my mom dropped dead without warning). It felt like I lost my anchors in life and I've been drifting ever since. You're right … you don't really get "rid" of the grief .. it just inhabits a space inside you. I've been searching for a book on grief ever since and haven't found one yet that totally spoke to me -- although The Long Goodbye came close. Not being able to say goodbye to my parents is one of my biggest regrets. Just the chance to see them and tell them I love them one more time would have made a huge difference. As it was, it was like losing a telephone connection in the middle of a conversation and never getting them back on the line.<br /><br />I too took books to remember my parents … and a few small items that are meaningful. I think your husband's gesture of building the bookcases says more than anything else he could have done. How meaningful!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your story and I too think about my legacy to my son -- Lord knows what it will be but I'm trying and that is all we can do in the end.<br /><br />Hugs.Jennershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044537551139633301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-71306822692876973382012-12-13T09:39:44.645-08:002012-12-13T09:39:44.645-08:00Hah! You're right -- it is kind of like Sherlo...Hah! You're right -- it is kind of like Sherlock and Watson. I hadn't even thought of that. Too funny! <br /><br />My family really likes Sherlock -- almost as much as Doctor Who. ;-) My older daughter calls Sherlock's character "an unholy mix between The Doctor and Sheldon Cooper."<br /><br />Thank you for sharing your thoughts on grief. Time, friends, family & your pets ... that sounds wise. I am so sorry about the loss of your mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-82855357782724078312012-12-13T09:36:37.682-08:002012-12-13T09:36:37.682-08:00I'd forgotten about Stepmom -- I remember real...I'd forgotten about Stepmom -- I remember really liking that movie. I'll have to check out Life as a House. I do like Kevin Kline. :) Thanks, Jennifer!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4455799919149349621.post-15919600520066328232012-12-13T08:25:15.067-08:002012-12-13T08:25:15.067-08:00What an interesting read Stephanie :)
It's re...What an interesting read Stephanie :)<br /><br />It's really interesting reading you kid message you in facebook...it reminds me of John Watson blog..how he and Sherlock commented on his blog whereas they are still in the same flat. Technology!<br /><br />My mom passed away last year and will do a special post for her next week. She was my best friend. I cope with the grief through time, friends, family, and my pets. I don't think any film can help me get over grief.Novrozhttp://bokunosekai.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com